Monday, March 2, 2009
Little Girls & Pants
Another conservative Christian blogger & sister in the Lord recently wrote an interesting post regarding little girls wearing or not wearing skirts. If you would like to read what she had to say, you may click here.
Though I'm not sure I agree with every one of her points, I appreciated her stand and it re-enforced some of my thoughts on this subject. I thought this would be a good opportunity to let my friends know where my husband and I stand on this issue.
We believe the Bible is clear about the woman wearing modest apparel. The Old Testament plainly says that it is an ABOMINATION for a woman to wear that which pertains to a man. Some would say, "Well, we don't live under OT law." That is true, but do we not believe in an unchanging God? He chose the word "abomination" and it seems to me that is one thing He does not change His mind on. The debate comes when people wonder what pertains to a man and what does not. There ARE jeans and pants out there a man would never wear. I'm not getting into that at this time.
My husband and I discussed and looked into this issue when we were expecting our first child. We knew what kind of an example we wanted put before our sons and daughters and I began to wear skirts/dresses exclusively. It was decided our daughters would do the same for as long as they live in our home.
When our first daughter was born, we did NOT dress her in dresses only until after she learned to walk. I know of many baby girls who get around just find crawling in dresses, etc., but, for us, it was no big deal to allow the 12 month old to wear some fleece pants or cotton shorts. Jeans, however, were never an option. Why? Because there are some really cute little girl jeans out there and I knew it would be hard to "give those up" when the time came.
When we sent out invitations to our daughter's first birthday party, we politely included a couple of sentences informing friends and family that she would be no longer wearing pants, but dresses would be appreciated. This eliminated the need to return a gift lovingly chosen by our loved ones thus hurting feelings.
Now, I don't think a little girl (3 or 4 years old) wearing jeans is immodest. Honestly, she has nothing to "show off" at that age. Why don't we allow our little girls to wear pants for a longer period of time? Mainly because it is harder to change a habit the longer you keep that habit. Again - there are a ton of cute pants and outfits out there. It would be very difficult for ME, my friends and family, and for my daughter to give up buying those suddenly when she turns 5, 7, 9, or 13. (BTW - making this change when your daughter is over 10 often brings resentment from her. Be VERY careful in doing this!)
Notice, I'm not going into a huge Bible study on this. I believe the Bible told us to dress a certain way - the more we try to walk the line, the more likely it is that we'll cross it. Staying conservative leaves less room for doubt and more space between yourself and that line.
Just so you know - I do NOT believe that women who wear pants are ungodly. I have often told my children that I believe that there a women more godly than I that do not hold to this standard. My best friend in the whole world doesn't see things the way I do. Do I think she loves the Lord and wants to please Him? Absolutely! There are women who wear dresses exclusively whom I would never go to for godly counsel as most of the rest of their lives are in direct rebellion against God.
Now, what will Eric and I do if our daughter's move out of our home and begin to wear...GASP...pants?! We'll love them and their daughters, and hope to be able to fellowship with them often. We'll accept them with a smile. We WON'T preach to them. I will give them the same respect as I give my friends and family who don't share this conviction. We will only discuss it if they bring it up. If they begin to wear EXTREMELY immodest clothing, we will ask that they not wear those things into our home, but if they are not living a worldly life of fornication, drugs, etc., they will still be welcomed with open arms.
What about you? What are some of your thoughts on this? I'd love to hear them.